I can’t necessarily relate to this book myself. I don’t think If I were abandoned I would want to go looking for the ones who abandoned me, especially if it wasn’t like a young mother who knew I would have a better life in the care of other, but instead because I was unwanted, or at least seeming unwanted. If I had a good relationship with a man who I believed was my birth father and he raised me as his own I would leave it at that. I can understand the curiosity but I wouldn’t ever be able to call either of them her mother or father (her birth parents) mom or dad. They did not treat her as a daughter why should she treat them as her family. The commitment thing is very relatable and understandable though. If all you’ve ever known is run when it gets complicated or connected, then when its more than just a surface relationship you’re going to run. OR in her case she didn’t allow herself to get close enough to her friends , which is why it didn’t hurt her to run, she’d taught herself to look out for her, that’s what mom did right? Also I don’t think her mom is so much a psychopath as much as a sociopath. It doesn’t seem like her mom understands what she’s doing or what she’s done, psychopaths try to hide their crimes and are ashamed, they know what is right and wrong.
A boarder for me is definitely the running from friends.. running from her fiancé I can understand, if you can’t get close you can’t get hurt, but friends are different than significant other relationships, relationships are more about compromise and not that friendships aren’t, but their more about being there. She’s just not a really good friend…but doesn’t know how to be one anyway.